Having lunch with a friend one day, I noticed a peculiar behavior; he was very, very kind to everyone we encountered in the restaurant. As we were eating, I asked him why was so nice to them but often times nasty to those of us closest to him. He said to me, "Dee, that's the human enigma. We as a human race just tend to be kinder to strangers than we are to our loved ones." I thought that to be a very strange comment and as I got to know that person better, I realized it was just a lot of bullshit coming out of the mouth of a bullshit artist. Sure, it makes us feel better to be kind to people, but for the most part, the human race is kinder to her loved ones, I'm sure. The human enigma is not that most people are kinder to strangers than their own loved ones, that's just a characteristic trait of narcissism.
Here is what I find the human enigma to be: We spend our whole lives looking for the kind of love that will encapsulate us, hold us close, never leave us, however, when we don't experience that love, we tend to believe we didn't deserve it in the first place, so the next time we enter into a relationship, while we may be looking for love- we're probably setting ourselves up to fail simply for the fact that that's what's happened in the past and, hey, you might as well be prepared for what's about to come. 
You never really find that bliss until you fall in love completely with the person who is completely in love with you. The funny thing -well, the not so funny thing is that we cannot attain that bliss while we're in relationships we set ourselves up to fail in. Only the bliss can make us feel worthy enough to be with the person we're supposed to be with rather than setting ourselves up to fail with people were not supposed to be with. The courage to be with your true love comes only from having been with your true love. Let me repeat that- the courage to be with your true love comes only from having been with your true love. 
That, my little pretties, is the human enigma.

By 
Deannalynn Arzola