"Jung Typology Test"

 I am a huge follower of Dr. Carl Jung, so when it came to my attention that there was a personality test out there that some folks use to gauge the affect of potential employees or, perhaps traits of patients, I was quite intrigued. I completed the test online and I have to say, it is spot on in regards to all things Dee Arzola.

The following are the results of my "Jung Typology Test"...

*ENFJ refers to Extroversion, Intuition, Feeling, Judgement

ENFJ Personality:

Representing approximately 2 percent of all people, the ENFJ personality type tends to be very influential, often without making any conscious effort to increase their influence. As part of the Diplomats (NF) group, ENFJs are genuinely interested in other people and radiate authenticity, concern, and altruism. Not surprisingly, those who surround ENFJs usually find them very inspiring and likable.
ENFJs are usually very charismatic and eloquent and find it natural and easy to communicate their ideas and opinions, especially in person. It does not really matter whether they are presenting cold facts or expressing raging emotions, the ENFJ will not be afraid to stand up and speak, regardless of the audience. Everything you do right now ripples outward and affects everyone. Your posture can shine your heart or transmit anxiety. Your breath can radiate love or muddy the room in depression. Your glance can awaken joy. Your words can inspire freedom. Your every act can open hearts and minds.
This is one of the reasons why ENFJs can be so convincing and mesmerizing when they speak, they instinctively know how to combine passion and rational arguments, drawing the audience’s attention and reaching every mind. People with this personality type can be great leaders, and they do not necessarily have to get into politics to make a difference. An ENFJ teacher or coach can have a strong, positive effect on many people’s lives as well.
ENFJ personalities are very intuitive. They find it easy to sense other people’s motives and find connections between seemingly unrelated events. ENFJs also tend to be quite good at analyzing their own feelings and questioning them if necessary.
On the other hand, such intuitiveness and sensitivity can also cause significant difficulties for people with this personality type. They may be too altruistic and emphatic, getting too involved in other people’s problems. They may then find it difficult to detach and stop worrying. In extreme cases, this can even affect the ENFJs’ perception of themselves.
ENFJs are optimistic idealists, often trusting other people more than they should—although this usually turns out to be a self-fulfilling prophecy. As already mentioned above, ENFJs can be very convincing and inspiring. People are drawn toward strong personalities, and the ENFJ’s charisma can often be a uniting and motivating factor.

ENFJ Relationships: 

ENFJ personalities take dating and relationships very seriously—their dedication and passion are really admirable. Even in early dating phases this is evident; people with this type are prepared to put a lot of time and effort into fostering their romantic relationships. First of all, ENFJs pay a lot of attention to their partners’ needs and desires. Second, they do not shy away from commitments or obligations, doing their best to connect with their partners. Finally, ENFJs do everything they can to feel the pulse of the relationship. They will occasionally ask their partner if everything is fine, whether they need anything else, etc. If there are any concerns at all, the ENFJ will rush to resolve the potential issue as soon as possible.
ENFJs take their obligations very seriously and are likely to do everything they can to create and maintain a solid relationship. Unfortunately, this is also one of the main weaknesses of ENFJs; due to their extraordinary emotional investment in dating and romantic relationships in general, ENFJs are likely to feel a huge sense of guilt and betrayal if the relationship (even if they were still dating) fails. However, this is unlikely to crush the ENFJ.
From the standpoint of sexual intimacy, ENFJs tend to be very passionate and dedicated lovers, doing their best to make sure that their partners feel happy. That being said, their Judging (J) trait is likely to introduce a bit of routine and predictability (which may actually be a stabilizing factor) into their sexual life.
ENFJ personalities loathe conflicts and criticism, especially when it comes to dating and romantic relationships. They will do everything they can to escape tense situations, including sacrificing their own principles. This can easily lead to resentment and difficulties later on, once both partners realize that the problem has not gone anywhere.
ENFJs should also learn to pay more attention to their own needs and express them clearly, especially while they are still dating. People with this personality type do not need much to feel happy; however, it is crucial that the ENFJ receives some praise and visible affection as well. Otherwise, the balance in the relationship may be disrupted, or their dating partners may see them as insecure.
Preferred partners: INFP and INTP types, as their Introversion (I) and Prospecting (P) traits counterbalance ENFJs’ Extroversion (E) and Judging (J) traits.

ENFJ Strengths and Weaknesses:

Strengths:

Very charismatic- ENFJ personalities are charming and popular. They instinctively know how to attract and keep people’s attention, as well as communicate with them effectively.
Altruistic- ENFJs are warm and selfless, always willing to help other people. They are idealists, motivated by the idea of doing something good for the world.
Skilled imitators- ENFJs find it very easy to notice what drives, motivates, and worries other people, and they are instinctively able to adjust their own manners and arguments accordingly.
Natural leaders- ENFJ personalities do not seek to dominate or direct, but people are attracted to their charisma and eloquence. Not surprisingly, ENFJs usually end up being very popular and rarely have any difficulties getting to leadership positions.
Tolerant- People with this personality type tend to be open-minded and accepting, willing to consider competing ideas as long as they do not contradict their inner principles. ENFJs can easily get along with most other types.
Reliable- ENFJs work hard for causes they consider important. If their role excites and motivates them, an ENFJ can be very patient and reliable.

Weaknesses:

Sometimes too selfless- ENFJs may often take on too much work or get deeply involved in other people’s problems, trying too hard to not offend or disappoint anybody.
Very idealistic- People with this personality type can often be too idealistic or even naive, believing that everyone is good-natured and cares about principles that are important to the ENFJ.
Often too sensitive- Deep down, ENFJs are sensitive and emotional individuals who can get hurt and disappointed very easily. They may also worry too much about other people’s feelings and well-being.
Vulnerable to criticism- ENFJ personalities have a strong inner core of principles and values, and they can get very hurt if someone criticizes them. ENFJs may also have difficulties reacting calmly to general criticism and negativity.
May find it difficult to make tough decisions- Due to their altruism and sensitivity, ENFJs are likely to struggle with decisions involving hard choices. They may waver between different options, unable to stop thinking about all the possible consequences.
Highly fluctuating self-esteem. An ENFJ’s self-esteem depends on whether they are able to live up to their ideals and fulfill their goals, while at the same time making sure that everyone around them is happy. If the ENFJ’s ideas are being constantly criticized or they are unable to help people close to them, their self-confidence is likely to plummet.

 ENFJ Careers:

Most typical ENFJ careers share one key attribute—they focus on making other people happy. ENFJs are usually very warm, sociable, and altruistic, and they have many viable choices when it comes to choosing the career that is best for them. We will list some of the most common roles below, but please feel free to drop us a message if you have any comments or ideas.
Let us start examining ENFJ career choices by stating the somewhat obvious fact that ENFJs are sincerely interested in other people and try to do their best to help them. On top of this, people with the ENFJ personality type tend to have extraordinary social and networking skills—it is quite common for an ENFJ to be “that person who knows everybody.” ENFJs truly shine in customer-relations careers or roles where they need to be dealing with other people on a daily basis. They can be brilliant sales representatives, advertising consultants, or HR administrators.
Next, ENFJs are usually quite sensitive and even somewhat idealistic. This is a double-edged sword, as the same sensitivity draws ENFJs toward careers that reward high emotional intelligence; on the other hand, ENFJs are very vulnerable to criticism and should stay away from stressful careers. Some of the ENFJ careers to avoid include finance (especially stock trading), law enforcement, corporate management, emergency personnel, medicine, and the military.
People with this personality type are also really creative, organized, and honest. This makes them excellent psychologists, event coordinators, or politicians. (There are some honest politicians in the world!) Also, one of the best ENFJ careers can be found in writing; however, ENFJs tend to approach this from a journalistic rather than book-writing perspective as such a career allows them to leverage their people skills.
Finally, ENFJs love new challenges and the thrill they get from helping other people. Consequently, many ENFJs are found in “altruistic” careers, e.g., social or religious work, teaching, or counseling. However, it should also be noted that ENFJs need constant approval from other people in order to feel satisfied and happy. If this is not forthcoming, the ENFJ may burn out very quickly and move to another career path or project.

 ENFJ Friends:

ENFJ friends are known for their warmth and kindness. People with this personality type enjoy connecting with others and getting to know them well. Most ENFJs find it easy to communicate, even with individuals who do not share any of their traits or ideas. That being said, ENFJ personalities can be quite selective when it comes to picking their closest friends. They value authenticity and sincerity, and do not open up to each and every one of their acquaintances. Despite belonging to the Feeling (F) group, ENFJ friends are able to dish out criticism where necessary. This is not something that ENFJs enjoy, but they can be quite decisive and judgmental if the situation demands them to be. Generally, though, ENFJ personalities tend to be very tactful and kind, even to the point of being too sweet. It is difficult not to enjoy being with an ENFJ friend. They may be a bit too inflexible sometimes, but their energy and sincerity are very disarming.
ENFJs are likely to be somewhat idealistic when it comes to making friends—they want to be the best friends imaginable. Such an approach is certainly commendable, but people with the ENFJ personality type need to make sure that their enthusiasm does not stifle the other person. ENFJ friends tend to be very supportive, cheerful, and passionate, but not every personality type can cope with this. ENFJs should not take this personally.
ENFJ personalities are both able and willing to work on their friendships, placing them very high on their priority list. ENFJs take pleasure in helping people discover their strengths and passions, and then supporting them along the way. This is not entirely altruistic as the ENFJ will also likely expect their friend to return the favor when an opportunity presents itself. Regardless, ENFJ friends will definitely be highly valued and respected.
ENFJs are most likely to surround themselves with Analyst or Diplomat friends as this gives them an excellent opportunity to discuss ideas that other personality types may deem too idealistic. However, ENFJs tend to be quite open-minded in this respect and will rarely have major difficulties relating to different types, as long as the other person does not criticize their principles.

ENFJ Parents:

ENFJ personalities tend to be inspiring, warm, and very dedicated parents. They will try very hard to make sure that their children have strong value systems and grow up to be responsible adults. ENFJ parents are also likely to have very high standards, encouraging their children to be the best they can be, while also remembering to listen to their hearts.
ENFJ parents are likely to be very caring and nurturing. They will surround their children with love, warmth, and encouragement, always doing their best to create a safe and conflict-free environment for them to grow in. However, this can cause issues once their children reach adolescence; should the children wish to rebel against the authority of their parents, as many teenagers do, the ENFJ will likely feel hurt and unloved.
That being said, ENFJs’ intuition, energy, and sense of humor will help them a lot in such situations. People with the ENFJ personality type may be inflexible or even manipulative in some cases, but their genuine warmth and caring will certainly be remembered and appreciated by their children.

WOW!!!

-by Deannalynn Arzola

All day long my thoughts swirl around inside my head, unceasing even in the perceived distraction of the clientele. So many changes all at once. Then I come home and allow my mind to wrap around you and my soul, for a brief moment is bathed in your essence.
You are my vacation.

-DeAnna 

Last night, I sat over my pentacle filled with rose petals and a flaming red candle, the scent of rose oiled incense wafted thru my space as the moon waxed to fullness on the eve of her eclipse. Tonight, a rose colored moon, known in magical circles as a pink moon, is rapidly approaching. As I practiced my Magick last night, I wore the shirt of my beloved. I called upon his spirit. I never practice this type of Magick, but I missed him, as this is the longest period of time I have not seen him in over a year. I needed to know that he was okay, so I practiced and I prayed and I did something else as the flame flickered , something I know only he can feel, something I take from him, this passion he inspires in me. Something I told him about long ago that only he can make me do. It is our thing, and I did it as I called to him and low and behold the beauty of Magick and the psychic connection we share, he responded. ONLY to me, and at the very moment I called to him. He and I do not need a phone. Communication, as in talking to each other has never really been our thing. He is Scorpio and he is reticent. He knows just when I need to receive his words and that is when he shares them and that is fine by me because I know how to communicate with him without the benefit of the modern era. 
I could feel him, and he me, and while all the people we know keep telling us to stay away from one another, we are bound by something ethereal that they could never understand. Thinking about him today and the way the Magick came to pass last night, I read my tarot today using only Major Arcana in a horseshoe love spread. This is what the cards said:

Significator: Moon-Reversed (Me)
I am feeling highly emotional and a break is necessary. Assume nothing, fight fair, do not ignore my intuition, treat him as a friend and don't try to rush things.
*NEVER try to rush anything with a Scorpio. They do everything in their own time. Everything...

Foundation: Emperor-Reversed
You are highly organized are are most likely drawn to a man who is not. Lighten up. Compromise.

Present State: Chariot
You're tempted to go too far too fast. Be honest about the possibilities.

Hopes for the Relationship: Fool
You're not ready for a relationship. You enjoy the fun, but are in fear of the depth of a true relationship. Don't overlook real, true, deep love.

Personality Clashes: Death
Have a frank discussion about how you feel about one another. The death card is the Scorpio card and it is indicative of transformation. It's time to transform my personality, and not be the rigid Capricorn I am all the time. Love is soft.

Influences of Friends or Foes: Temperance
In order to have the peace we desire, we must slay our demons and let go of that which is painful and not good for our present state. Forgiveness in ourselves is in order.

What to do for the Best: Devil
Take steps to keep the Magick alive. The Devil card represents Capricorn. In other words, don't  be such a Capricorn. Be more like your Scorpio. Passion and depth are in order.

Outcome (if you take advice from the previous card): Hierophant-Reversed
Step outside of you routine.Tread lightly, though. Pushing too far too fast will alienate your beloved

I don't need to wish for anything. I would never cast a love spell. The Universe has already brought us into existence of one another for a reason. I know this reason is that he needs someone who understands him and loves him unconditionally and connects with him on a level no one else can. I will always do everything in my power to do so and I will continually matriculate him so as to give him the assuagement he so deserves.

As I pray, so  mote it be...

Deannalynn Arzola

 Capricorn 
A surprise meeting certainly gives you a lot to think about, with the current astral configuration. You may almost think about walking away, rather than taking up the offer of a date, simply because it all seems too quick and too sudden. But you would benefit by taking a risk and acting on your instinct if it tells you this would be the right road down which to travel.

Scorpio

Today you discover that you and another person share a vital and wonderful chemistry between you. The current astral configuration means that your relationship may now head into new and very different waters after perhaps months or years of being friends or acquaintances. You will find out that you can relate to each other's peculiar fantasies and strange quirks, and this makes you love each other even more.

I love you, darlin'...
Blessed be

Tarot-Celtic Cross Spread-April 12, 2014

Past and it's Influence on the Present: Lovers-Reversed

 When feeling ambivalent about your relationships, trust your gut. These  feelings are here  for a reason. Be cautions of attractions to co-workers,  especially a mentor, he is there to  teach you. Realize that the current  relationship is keeping you tethered to a life you do  not want. This card also  indicates a delay in love.

Obstacle Working Against Your Interest: Devil-Reversed

  While life can always turn on a dime, it's not as bad as it seems, just take a deeper look at   your situation and remember, most change is for the better. Finances will be tight, but         stay calm. It is what it is. Don't forget, as well, knowledge is power.

Helpful Influences: King of Wands

 The King of Wands, in and of it's self represents a mentor, and a supportive man that you  care about and who cares about and is protective of you. A job you will be pleased with is  indicated so you must stay focused and strong to accomplish your goals. Don't think it's  okay to mix business with pleasure. Your mentor is there to teach you the tools you will  need to accomplish those goals. Dream big, don't be negative and don't over do it or your  health will suffer.

Near Future: 9 of Pentacles-Reverse

 While you have allot to be proud of, action is still needed. No slacking in all areas,  including love. Talk to your beloved, but know, it is you who completes you. Work hard  for your money, but also exercise and mediate to take care of your health.

More Distant Future: Hermit-Reversed

 A romance from a distant past may be rekindled. Don't spend too much time alone . This card also advises you seek financial advice.

Outcome: Temperance

 Trusting your intuition in matters of the heart is very important, even if a distant love  comes knocking. Understand that your mentor is there as a blessing from which to learn,  as knowledge is power and recognize that holding on to a current love situation is what is  keeping you from living your dreams. Be kind in the letting go. Keep your eye on the prize,  doing so will benefit you in your new job. Keep working hard even though you know  you're moving on. This new job will help you realize your dreams, so just remember that  change is good. Go out and socialize, but remember to exercise for your physical        health and meditate for your spiritual health. Not doing so will reek havoc on you. Be sure  to get good financial advice with your new, higher income, don't be negative and continue  to dream big. 

A Love Letter

As I bathe in the incandescent light of the moon, I realize that while life can be trying at times, I am blessed. Thinking about the many people I have encountered, known and loved in my life, the past comes back to haunt me for a brief moment. The lack of personal education perpetuated by the people charged with teaching me how to attend to the rules of life, and how I despise them at the very core of their soul, creeps over me like a thick black cloud of smoke. What allows the dissipation of said smoke is the knowledge I carry which my other people have taught me. This education I was freely given has taught me how to be strong. It has taught me how to be wise. It has taught me how to forgive. It has, in fact, even taught me what love truly is. There have been many moments in my life when I thought I would never really know what love actually is.
This is my love letter to all the people I have known, most of whom are still here, in my heart, my soul and my life.

Dear Grams, thank you for showing me what a strong woman is. You raised twelve children without a husband. They are all successful. Thank you for falling in love with my mother, your daughter-in-law, when her own mother couldn't, after your mother couldn't. Thank you for taking me in when I lost the most important person in my life, as if you had made a promise to her, a promise you kept when you loved me and taught me the things only a mother can teach her daughter. And thank you for trusting me with your deepest, darkest secrets. You are the reason I love November and all the people born in that month. They are the greatest people on earth and because of you, I aspire, daily to be as worthy of their love as I was of yours. Because of you, my best friends truly are the best friends to their people, and thus, I have them in my life, and am truly fortunate. These are the people who keep me in touch with my emotionality. They make me laugh and cry harder than anyone else I have ever known.

Dear Jeanine, my daughter, my mother's name sake, thank you for showing me, everyday, that I succeeded in something I was terrified I would fail miserable at. Your accomplished viability and your capacity to love your children completely, honor your friends determinedly, share you wisdom decisively, cherish your husband exceedingly and continually matriculate the mysteries of your mother confirm for me that I achieved the greatest honor there is. For there is nothing in this world that stops me and takes my breath away like seeing the woman you have become. You show me everyday that I should be proud. When I feel that I have failed at the big things, I need look no further than my own little family.

Dear David, my husband, the person whose name I took and will never give away, to anyone. I am Dee Arzola, and I am her because of you. Thank you for teaching me how to be a better mother, a better friend, a better daughter. Thank you for loving me, unconditionally, faithfully and thoroughly. You taught me that family can be a good thing. My grams loved you. Allot. You taught me about patience and forgiveness and understanding. You are the love of my life. You are my daughter's father and because of you , she appreciates family and domesticity and she has married a strong and passionate man, whom she considers her best friend. You have a considerable amount to do with the way she is and I could never thank you enough, even with my words. Your Cancerism balanced me out and smoothed my rough edges. I just wish you would have been there long enough to help complete the latter. You continue making me a better person, everyday. I love you.

Dear Joshua, my grandson, my love, my Scorpio. You were a blessing to me from day one, having arrived in my life on Grams' birthday. You are the most beautiful thing I have ever seen. You are a creature full of passion and love and you express your emotions at the deepest level known to humanity, or all of creation, for that matter. You continue to amaze me with the love you give, so freely and so expecting that everyone else can do the same. We cannot. You were born under a very loving and passionate sun and loyal and faithful moon. While I love your mother and her dad very much, you, Joshua, I love more than anyone else I have ever known. And you love me more than anyone else ever has, as well. You are my gift, and my reward, for having suffered so many fools so gladly. You are worth all the pain I ever experienced before. When I hold you in my arms, I can feel the love radiating from your soul. When I talk to you, especially when we're in each other's presence, it's as if you are the only person in the room, for both of us. And you seem to be this little man that I have known for a million years. So mature and deep. I have been in love with you every minute of every day that you have been alive. I will do so until the end of time. I wear your birthstone on my ring finger for the same reason married couples do, it is the position on which to wear a ring closest to my heart. Thank you, Joshua, for showing me and sharing with me unfiltered love.

Dear Adrian, my best friend and the only person I would ever trust with my advanced directive and my bank account. Thank you for teaching me about friendship. You have the determination in regards to friendship that which I have never seen. Bless you for calling my husband at his job just get hold of me. Your love for me while we were surrounded by so many people who wanted us all to themselves is something I will always carry in my heart. People have called us soul mates. Perhaps this is true, as it has been said that a soul mate is the person who calls forth your shadow and makes you look at who you are on the inside. You have taught me the art of communication without words. When I was unable to understand, you taught me why there is darkness inside of people and that it is okay to hold tight to it. There are so many Scorpios in my life. You taught me about this mysterious sign, a lesson I have needed, as I am drawn to them, as I was drawn to you. I have witnessed you observing my gregarious nature, as if it were a lesson you were learning. We see in each other that which we hide inside of ourselves. Because of you, I am passionate in regards to my sexuality. A lesson you taught me without ever actually consummating our relationship. You taught me how to love so deeply, in spite of the flaws I may see in my people, and you prepared me for that depth that would enter my life via more November people. Thank you for your generosity. Adrian, you literally saved my life, and that is why I trust you with the decision, should it ever arise, as to pulling the plug. When you saved my life, my life became your charge. You earned my trust like no one else ever has. There are moments in our relationship that stand out so exponentially, I will never lose those memories. Watching me smoke at the bar, talking to everyone around me, as you sat alone in the dark. Our eyes met, and it was at that moment that we both came to know exactly who the other one was. Holding my hand on the flight to Jersey. You bumped us up to first class for my birthday. You took me to the bar where my favorite rock star, and yours, first played to an audience on the shore. We stood together in the cold, observing the Atlantic in Asbury Park. When Bubby died, I died, too, but you brought me home, with whatever it took, no questions asked. You simply offered. You are the most generous man I have ever known, and the darkest, but I fell in love with you the day we met. I knew then I would always love you, and I do. You are the best friend I have ever had. Thank you for our beautiful, deep, passionate and somewhat surreptitious friendship. I love you.
*writing this compelled me to call you. I inadvertently called you parents. Talked to your dad. While talking to your mom, you called her, as I was on the other line. That's magic, Ade. That's what we have. Magic!!!

And briefly, Thank you Lynn, for letting me know that I am the love of your life, Thank you Arley, for teaching me about respect. Thank you Juliana, for being the only daughter of an only daughter of an only daughter of an only daughter of an only daughter of an only daughter of an only daughter of an only daughter. Us gals, we share blood and the power of the craft...blessed be. And Thank you Alan, for teaching me more about myself than anyone ever has. Because of you, I have learned the difference between the heart and the soul and that that means real love lies in the soul and allows us to love people because of their demons.

Love is a blessing that comes from all the things our people give us on our journey, and it lies in our soul, not our heart, not our mind...our soul.

My love letter consists of the people I will never walk away from. Not completely. We make take periodic breaks from our soul people, but when they are in our soul, that is forever.

I love you, from the very depths of my soul...
Blessed be

Deannalynn Arzola